Emotions are like a hammer: you can smash windows with them, or you can build houses. You are here because you are an emotional being, and perhaps you are realizing that your emotions are in control and you do not know how to read them or trust them, which creates ineffective, even chaotic patterns in your life and relationships. Emotions and behaviors are different things, and maybe through the caustic effects of invalidation the distinction is not yet entirely clear to you, causing you to act on your emotions impulsively. Maybe you are here because you want to learn how to understand and sit with your emotions without acting on them until you are ready, sure of what these emotions are trying to convey.
Regardless of the specifics, you are here because you seek answers in one way or another. You might not even know the questions you want to ask. Maybe your questions feel more like a sense of things not feeling quite right, something you can't quite put your finger on. Or you might feel unable to change certain thought patterns, actions, or address the feeling of a lack of movement in your life and/or your relationships, your career, job, family, or sense of place in the world. Life might seem overwhelming to you sometimes, making you want to avoid the newspapers or television. Or maybe you are here because someone you love is suffering, and that challenges your relationship. You might be here for a child, friend, partner, parent, spouse, or co-worker. Addiction, illness, and chronic pain might feel like too much to bear sometimes and you want relief.
Therapy is a journey, an experience that can bring peace and relief, understanding, change, awareness, and growth to your life. Therapy can deepen your sense of being alive and enrich your relationships. You might want to explore your feelings of grief and sadness so as to heal recent or past wounds, or to discover new tools for coping with such emotional pain. You might want to awaken passion in you and your relationships, or maybe it is time for you to try something you have always been afraid to try, or to confront a fear or bring resolve to an ending as you welcome or seek a new beginning.
All the same, you are here and you have taken the first step, and I am glad you are here.
What exactly is therapy like?