Lauren Gonzalez, MA, MFA, LMFT
 
 

People say that what we’re all seeking is a meaning for life...I think that what we’re really seeking is an experience of being alive. -Joseph Campbell
 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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A range of emotional, behavioral, spiritual, relational and physical challenges bring people to therapy, from specific problems to a general feeling that life is just not right, nor is it all that it could be. Whether your goals are pointed or your needs less defined, I aim to provide a focused, change- and acceptance-oriented safe space for our exploration , one built upon trust and a relational bond, which I believe is essential to healing.

If your goals are clear and you want time-limited support in reaching them, then my goal as a therapist is to make myself obsolete. I have done my job when you are ready to end therapy.

Maybe you are unsure why you are here, just not fully feeling yourself, or lacking a sense of meaning or focus. Or, if your goals are more relational, aimed at self-development and a deepening sense of awareness born of the therapeutic relationship, where we might work on interpersonal and relational skills, we can take the time you need and want for therapy. You will know when you are ready to move on.

There is no right or wrong way to engage in therapy. Some people want brief, focused support, and others want longer term work that develops over time, with the therapist as a support through various life stages. In some cases, you might complete a bit of work and take a break, and return at another point in your life where you want support or new insight. It is up to you, and I will collaborate with you in the process of defining what might be most effective.

 

Therapy is also a process of identifying the unmet needs, attachments, and patterns of invalidation that have shaped how you experience the world, yourself, and your relationships. In therapy, we work to help you heal your sense of self and to shift how you interact with the the world and other people in your life in ways you deem as problematic or ineffective for how you want to live. A big part of the therapy process is about better connecting you to your emotions, not protecting you from them.

 

Emotions are a tool; they are data: they can be destructive or constructive depending on your relationship with them and how you have learned to manage them. Most of us learn to just cope with them at best, waiting for them to pass like a bad storm. You don't have to keep living this way. You can learn to read them, understand them, and then craft your responses. You don't have to live with your emotions running the show. YOU are the director, however, your emotions are independent and sometimes rebellious and outspoken actors ignoring your direction and needs!

 

Perhaps you are considering therapy because you realize that you don't trust yourself or your emotions, which can create ineffective, even chaotic patterns in your life and relationships. Emotions and behaviors are different things, and maybe through the caustic effects of invalidation (people telling you over and over that what you are experiencing isn't the right way to feel) the distinction is not yet clear to you. Maybe you are here because you want to learn how to understand and sit with your emotions without acting on them until you are ready to do so.

 

Regardless of what specifically brings you to therapy, you are here because you seek answers in one way or another. You might not even know the questions you want to ask. Maybe your questions feel more like a sense of things not feeling quite right, something you can't quite put your finger on. Or you might feel unable to change certain thought patterns, actions, or address the feeling of a lack of movement in your life and/or your relationships, your career, job, family, or sense of place in the world. Life might seem overwhelming to you sometimes, making you want to avoid the newspapers or television. Or maybe you are here because someone you love is suffering, and that challenges your relationship. You might be here for a child, friend, partner, parent, spouse, or co-worker. Addiction, illness, and chronic pain might feel like too much to bear sometimes and you want relief.​

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Therapy is a journey, an experience that can bring peace and relief, understanding, change, awareness, and growth to your life. Therapy can deepen your sense of being alive and enrich your relationships. You might want to explore your feelings of grief and sadness so as to heal recent or past wounds, or to discover new tools for coping with emotional pain. You might want to awaken passion in you and your relationships, or maybe it is time for you to try something you have always been afraid to try, or to confront a fear or bring resolve to an ending as you welcome or seek a new beginning.  ​

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No matter what brings you, you are here and you have taken the first step.

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